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On today’s Dr Phil, he sat down with a couple who seemed to have it all. A nice home, three healthy sons and more but their lives were shattered when it turned out that Shani was cheating with her friend’s husband. Her husband, Jason, doesn’t believe it’s the end of the world and wants to save the marriage.
Shani used to say to him “you’re going to lose me” because she started to feel like she couldn’t handle being a full-time mother and running her own business. After she started having an affair, she even left her son’s birthday party to be with him. She calls the other man, Greg, her “boyfriend.”
She has moved out and her boyfriend has left his wife and filed for divorce. Shani’s sister is furious that she has done this to her family.
Jason regrets it every day that he didn’t listen to her when she said she was feeling neglected and unfulfilled. He says that they have been together for 13 years and he doesn’t want his children to grow up in a “broken home.”
Dr Phil asks Shani how she plans to explain the reasons why their family fell apart. He confronts her about the selfishness of her decisions and she says that she doesn’t love Jason and she doesn’t think she can keep up the facade. Dr Phil pointed out that she had not ended the relationship with her husband and she’s comparing her husband and her regular married life to these weekend trysts at the lake which are nothing like reality. He asks her if it’s fair and she has to acknowledge that it isn’t.
Continue reading recap and see my opinion after the jump!
Shani said that her “boyfriend’s” wife has a hot temper because she sent mean text messages and she eventually had to get a restraining order. Uhhh… what did she think was going to happen? I would be doing more than that!
Jason thinks the boys are having a hard time, Shani says they are doing fine and Shani’s sister, Amber, agrees with Jason and says that the kids are struggling.
Shani also confessed that she has smoked marijuana with Greg, who joined the show via satellite. He also said that he doesn’t believe Shani’s three children will be affected and he also thinks his own two children will emerge from this situation unscathed. Dr Phil asked him if he thinks they have a healthy relationship considering it was borne out of deception and lies.
Greg sounds incredibly immature and refused to even answer Dr Phil’s questions about them smoking up together. I think he is a loser, I’m sorry, and I think he doesn’t actually care about Shani. It seems like he is just on the line to make sure he doesn’t get forgotten while Dr Phil talks with her, her husband and her sister. Dr Phil told him that if he has any respect for her and her children, he will take a step back and let her deal with her life first.
Greg interrupted the discussion so that he could say, again, that he doesn’t believe the children will be affected in the long run and that any stress will be short-term. Shani is in tears and her sister Amber reiterated that she doesn’t seem to realize the effect this is having on the kids. Shani said she felt like she was being thrown under the bus and Dr Phil asked if that was true or whether she was laying down in front of the bus (I think it’s the latter, thank you very much). Dr Phil told her she needs to step out of this affair and that if Greg really loves her, he will still be there after she sorts things out with her husband and children. Dr Phil pointed out that it’s pretty remarkable that her husband, Jason, is still willing to work with her.
In the end, Shani barely agreed to not see Greg anymore until she resolved things with her marriage. It was painful to watch and I hope that, in the end, she makes the right decision for those three boys that she has. Hopefully, Dr Phil will do a follow-up because I’m going to wonder what happened!
- What do you think Shani should do?
- Was Shani wrong to get in the relationship with Greg?
- Do you think Jason deserved to be cheated on?
- Do you believe that children of divorce are unaffected?
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I feel that we as a society should stop and think before we speak… I feel that once a person cheats that the emotional scaring from that is to great. We always use the children as an escape goat i done it for years and i knew my marriage was over. Why have a child or children grow up in a home full of tension and distrust. We have to remember we are our childrens first teacher and as long as we raise our children with love (yes from both parents) doesn’t mean we have to stay in the marriage. People now a dyas get married for dumb, stupid reasons and the children still suffer YOU CAN NOT MAKE A PERSON FEEL THEY WAY YOU WANT THEM TO FEEL.
The Marriage is over Dr. Phill if the try to work it out it will still end the trust beariors have been broken and the visions that gregs sees of his wife sleeping with another man has damage the way he feels about her lets be honest. He’s trying to hold on for the kids and in my opinion that’s nota good reason to torcher yourself. When she walks out the door he will always wonder if she’s going to meet up with a man or the man in question IT IS OVER.
Hi,
I just watched this particular episode of Dr Phil(was a repeat) and can someone tell me if jason and shani got back together and an update?
I can also speak from experience that as a 28 year old woman whose parents split messily when i was 5, that it DOES have an affect on the children and not just short term…..i still have councilling now.
Thanks and please update me