Comments on: Lorelai & Luke: On Being Parents & Their Decisions http://crushable.com/entertainment/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/ Crushable gives you the celebrity news, style and scoop on the stuff you care about. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 23:57:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Michelle http://crushable.com/entertainment/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/comment-page-1/#comment-72479 Michelle Sat, 03 May 2008 13:48:03 +0000 http://www.gilmoregirlsnews.com/2008/05/02/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/#comment-72479 God, sorry for the unbelievably long and rambling post!!! God, sorry for the unbelievably long and rambling post!!!

]]> By: Michelle http://crushable.com/entertainment/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/comment-page-1/#comment-72469 Michelle Sat, 03 May 2008 13:46:40 +0000 http://www.gilmoregirlsnews.com/2008/05/02/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/#comment-72469 Her thoughts on the fight being part of Rory having to grow up and leave the nest and Lorelai having to let her very much mirrors my own thoughts on the whole thing, but it was much better said than I ever could have and so very insightfully laid out. I also have to agree with what she says about the Luke/April/Lorelai thing - it makes sense and it very typical Luke behaviour. Luke always strikes me as a sweet and emotional guy who doesn't know how to deal with those emotions -and I think finding out he had a daughter was very overwhelming for him and that he needed the time to come to grips with it, but at the same time didn't know where to begin. I also think her felt an overwhelming pride and love for this little girl and that when he realised that she actually liked him too he didnt want to lose that. To me his whole behaviour seemed to be the classic reaction of someone inept at dealing with emotions and afraid of loosing this wonderful thing he felt he had been given and wasn't worthy of. I think he felt that Lorelai is a natural parent and would be much better at this whole thing and instead of asking for her help and advice he shut her out because he was afraid that she's take over and he'd lose-out. And at the same time he was so wrapped up in this that he could not see what this was doing to Lorelai. I believe that as a parent you need to do what is best for your child no matter what, and I also think that Luke though that he was doing what was best for April as in his warped thinking he figured that Lorelai taking over would make him insignificant and that if things went wrong April would be left behind and left with a person who she now didn't care about as much. That she would be left with the lesser person as it where. What Luke didn't think of however is that first of all he needs to trust in his relationship with April and also in his relationship with Lorelai. He also forgot that first and foremost Lorelai cares deeply about him and would give him the space with his daughter and wouldn't take over. He also didn't think about how much Lorelai could enrich both their lives -regardless of whether she would be around of ever or not. After-all there are no certainties or absolutes in life, and April is 12, and he and Lorelai were engaged, if it wasn't for this they would have married, his behaviour was the destructive element, completely understandable, but still the destructive element that caused that break-up. I completely understand parents not wanting their kid to get attached to a fling or a short term lover, but if you've been together for longer than a year and if you are engaged to be married I think the relationship is stable enough to introduce into the life of your kid. And sabotaging your relationship like Luke did under the premise of "it might not last" is self destructive and makes you a martyr, unhappy and therefor not a better parent (as your child feels it when you are unhappy, which is not god for the child). Her thoughts on the fight being part of Rory having to grow up and leave the nest and Lorelai having to let her very much mirrors my own thoughts on the whole thing, but it was much better said than I ever could have and so very insightfully laid out.
I also have to agree with what she says about the Luke/April/Lorelai thing – it makes sense and it very typical Luke behaviour. Luke always strikes me as a sweet and emotional guy who doesn’t know how to deal with those emotions -and I think finding out he had a daughter was very overwhelming for him and that he needed the time to come to grips with it, but at the same time didn’t know where to begin. I also think her felt an overwhelming pride and love for this little girl and that when he realised that she actually liked him too he didnt want to lose that. To me his whole behaviour seemed to be the classic reaction of someone inept at dealing with emotions and afraid of loosing this wonderful thing he felt he had been given and wasn’t worthy of. I think he felt that Lorelai is a natural parent and would be much better at this whole thing and instead of asking for her help and advice he shut her out because he was afraid that she’s take over and he’d lose-out. And at the same time he was so wrapped up in this that he could not see what this was doing to Lorelai. I believe that as a parent you need to do what is best for your child no matter what, and I also think that Luke though that he was doing what was best for April as in his warped thinking he figured that Lorelai taking over would make him insignificant and that if things went wrong April would be left behind and left with a person who she now didn’t care about as much. That she would be left with the lesser person as it where. What Luke didn’t think of however is that first of all he needs to trust in his relationship with April and also in his relationship with Lorelai. He also forgot that first and foremost Lorelai cares deeply about him and would give him the space with his daughter and wouldn’t take over. He also didn’t think about how much Lorelai could enrich both their lives -regardless of whether she would be around of ever or not. After-all there are no certainties or absolutes in life, and April is 12, and he and Lorelai were engaged, if it wasn’t for this they would have married, his behaviour was the destructive element, completely understandable, but still the destructive element that caused that break-up. I completely understand parents not wanting their kid to get attached to a fling or a short term lover, but if you’ve been together for longer than a year and if you are engaged to be married I think the relationship is stable enough to introduce into the life of your kid. And sabotaging your relationship like Luke did under the premise of “it might not last” is self destructive and makes you a martyr, unhappy and therefor not a better parent (as your child feels it when you are unhappy, which is not god for the child).

]]> By: Maddie http://crushable.com/entertainment/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/comment-page-1/#comment-72516 Maddie Fri, 02 May 2008 22:41:54 +0000 http://www.gilmoregirlsnews.com/2008/05/02/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/#comment-72516 i don't mean to be mean or a jerk or anything, but i dunno i guess i am just so stubborn and set in my ways that i don't care what anyone else says. haha ;) i just have this perfect picture of luke and lorelai happily married with kids and ya know, the whole package. the fact that we didn't even get to see them MARRIED was very upsetting to me. and yes, lorelai and rory were very close. the closet of the close, but i feel like lorelai has a big heart and there is enough room for luke, rory, and luke and lorelai's kids. and i don't mean to be cynical or anything, but luke and lorelai didn't get together forever because or else there wouldn't be a show. but this was very interesting to read and i appreciate you posting this. :) i don’t mean to be mean or a jerk or anything, but i dunno i guess i am just so stubborn and set in my ways that i don’t care what anyone else says. haha ;)

i just have this perfect picture of luke and lorelai happily married with kids and ya know, the whole package. the fact that we didn’t even get to see them MARRIED was very upsetting to me. and yes, lorelai and rory were very close. the closet of the close, but i feel like lorelai has a big heart and there is enough room for luke, rory, and luke and lorelai’s kids.

and i don’t mean to be cynical or anything, but luke and lorelai didn’t get together forever because or else there wouldn’t be a show.

but this was very interesting to read and i appreciate you posting this. :)

]]> By: Mary http://crushable.com/entertainment/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/comment-page-1/#comment-72563 Mary Fri, 02 May 2008 19:55:39 +0000 http://www.gilmoregirlsnews.com/2008/05/02/lorelai-luke-on-being-parents-their-decisions/#comment-72563 You are so right that Luke is hiding Lorelai from April, not the other way around. Very good insight! I don't really understand it. Luke loves Lorelai. Maybe he feels as Lorelai does, that it's too good, "too easy" as well. Maybe he doesn't trust that it's going to work out, because of failed relationships in the past. Maybe he feels that April is all his, not Lorelai's. And he's totally captivated by her, as you can see when he looks at her web page. Luke is just another tough guy-softie, and his newly found daughter has captured his heart. You are so right that Luke is hiding Lorelai from April, not the other way around. Very good insight! I don’t really understand it. Luke loves Lorelai. Maybe he feels as Lorelai does, that it’s too good, “too easy” as well. Maybe he doesn’t trust that it’s going to work out, because of failed relationships in the past. Maybe he feels that April is all his, not Lorelai’s. And he’s totally captivated by her, as you can see when he looks at her web page. Luke is just another tough guy-softie, and his newly found daughter has captured his heart.

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