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This comes from the Today show and was originally called “Teach Your Man Romantic Tricks For Valentine’s Day” but I couldn’t use such a sexist title. I think that both men and women could stand to learn some romantic tricks but, I’ll admit, that it is usually women who claim neglect in this department.
So, for anyone who is looking for a little more spice this Valentine’s Day, here are the tips (I’ve tweaked them to be more gender-neutral):
- Spell it out – Get specific when it comes to making romantic suggestions. most people can’t read minds so they are bound to do the “wrong thing” if you have some sort of expectations. Just spell it out if it’s really important – “It would be really romantic if we could have strawberries and champagne by candlelight while I’m in some pretty new robe that you get me.” See, that wasn’t so hard?
- Drop gift hints – Some people are comfortable with asking for exactly what they want. Others (like me) might try a different approach like leaving notes under their loved one’s pillow or asking a friend or family member to casually suggest something.
- Be a role model – If you want romance, make sure you are giving as much as you want to receive! Tender embraces, spontaneous displays of affection and writing little love notes are all great ways to get things started.
- Be revealing – When you open up to someone, it creates instant intimacy. Try telling your loved one something personal about yourself and your feelings, and ask them to reciprocate. If you’re feeling adventurous (and frisky), you could trade sexual fantasies, tell each other what you like in bed, or just reveal something that scares you or you have always dreamed of doing. Also, you might try dancing! This a great way to be romantic and intimate at the same time.
- Give him/her positive reinforcement – If your loved one puts forth the effort, make sure you tell them how much you liked/appreciated their effort and how you hope that they will do it again. Everyone likes to feel recognized and, who knows? Maybe you won’t need to drop so many hints next Valentine’s Day!