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In ‘Let the Games Begin‘, as soon as Rory & Jess finally share their first kiss (or two), Rory realizes she has to go. After Jess sighs in saying, “Whatever else happens between us, at least we know that part works”, Rory says “I have to go”, despite obviously enjoying the time herself.
After this moment, we see Rory climbing up to see Dean in his bedroom. She wants him to know she’s sorry for treating him badly and says he was “the most amazing boyfriend in the world” and that he made her very happy. She won’t talk with him about Jess, but hopes that some day he won’t hate her.
Does Rory go to Dean because she sees her relationship with Jess moving quickly? Or did the kiss make Rory realize how badly things had ended with Dean? What prompted the apology – then and there?
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I got the idea that even though she eventually chose Jess, I think she still had feelings for Dean. And I think she felt a little weird about the fact that their relationship ended so abruptly. She definitely still wanted him in her life. And of course, Rory felt awfully guilty. She’s known for being incredibly sweet and honest.
I think the kiss with Jess really brought it home that things were over with Dean and it made her realize how horribly things had ended with him and that she didn’t want things that way.
At the end of the day, Rory was still a good person and she cared for Dean.
Feelings like that just don’t evaporate and she felt bad for how she handled everything.
Basically what Sarah said: I think no matter how bad Rory’s decision making skills were she is genuinely a good person that does not like to hurt or see others hurt. I think kissing Jess brought the sense of a new beginning which also meant the closing of one of the most pivotal relationship in her life. First loves are that, Dean was that so I think she felt guilty that she was enjoying this moment knowing that she had mangled someone’s heart to do so. I think she wanted to make amends more than anything.
I think as much as appologizing to Dean to reduce the hurt to him, Rory was also trying to redeem her own self-image as someone who did not use other people to get what they wanted. In very well written dialogue, Dean pointed out that that was exactly what she did and now she had to learn to live with it. Just part of growing up where you do not get to have it both ways.
mcityrk, I completely agree.
Rory, in her basic goodness, knows she has to apologize to Dean. But of course there is mixed motive — she cannot enjoy being with Jess knowing the circumstances of how their togetherness came about. And of course, her image probably does matter, though there are psychological explanations other than selfishness, why does she feel such a need to be liked? Does she suspect she will be unloved if she is? Her mother ran away and held a grudge, and her grandparents continued strife with Lorelai may only reinforce this idea.
What’s even more interesting to me is the line before she tells Dean how amazing he was – ”I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
I think this line has more truth to it than even she may realize. Like her mother and grandmother, she is particularly excessive defending people against legitimate criticism, then viciously overreacting to people who “hurt” her, when all three of these Gilmore Girls have an enormous capacity to hurt other people.
I wonder if Amy sees this….
i thought this was a really affecting scene – especially going straight from the gorgeousness of finally seeing jess and rory together. i agree with mcityrk that the best bit was dean pointing out the reality of not having everybody like her. her silly small talk about that girl living in a tree etc etc would have been unbearably annoying for him, i think, trivialising what had happened between them. even though i never really felt her r/ship with dean had any real emotional depth to it, i almost cried when she said all that sweet stuff to him acknowledging everything he had done for her – i felt sooo sorry for him! i think this scene was rory (and the writers) giving dean’s character some respect, after the shattering and humiliating things that had been happening over the last few months.
It’s also a follow up to Rory’s first kiss with dean in the market, where she imediately runs off to Lane.
Rory does a lot of running off, especially after landmark moments. it’s her thing.