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We’re launching a new feature here on Crushable, a crowd-sourced advice column of sorts. You send us your questions, and we’ll give you our thoughts and advice, then open it up to the Crushable community to get their feedback as well. You can ask us anything, from questions about your health, style or relationships to questions about celebrities. Here’s our first example, submitted through our formspring page:
“I have been living with my roommate for almost two years. We were good friends in college, but since we’ve grown apart as we’ve gotten new jobs and friends. Our lease is up soon. How do I tell her I want to move on?”
After we receive your questions, we’ll answer them here. Here’s our answer to the sample question:
While it may be a difficult conversation to have with your roommate, it’s best to rip the band-aid off quickly, and the sooner, the better. This way, your roommate will have enough time to make other living arrangements. Tell her you want to talk, open a bottle of wine, ply her with some of her favorite snacks, and get to the heart of the matter. Although it may seem like a tough talk to have, chances are she’s feeling the same as you. And, you’ll feel better once your feelings are out there. Just make sure not to blame her for your decision. Try to remain rational and calm and things should (hopefully) go okay. Good luck!
Now, it would be your turn to add your thoughts in the comments. So here is how it works:
How to submit
There are two main ways to submit questions to us. First visit our formspring page: www.formspring.me/crushable and send us a quick question through there. Or, you can email us at submissions AT crushable.com.
How to comment
In order to comment on Crushable, you need to register on the site by providing an email address. You can pick your username so you can remain anonymous when posting, and we won’t give your email address to a third party or add you to any distribution lists. If you have any questions about registering or commenting, please feel free to email us at submissions AT crushable.com.
So what do you think about our sticky roommate situation? Do you agree with our advice?
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What is your roommate is CRAZY. Mine is not rational — she yelled at me for washing my feet in the shower (that was her boyfriend) and after a long weekend away, I came home to find her sleeping in my bed watching my Entourage DVDs. Yes, this really happened. My lease is this August — how do I deal with her until then? I just don’t want to go home anymore, it’s so tense. Should I get a subletter off Craigslist and look for another apartment?
Yeah, you’ve gotta just do it. Be honest and part on good terms and your friendship will survive.
Also, don’t wait till the last minute, either. Be courteous and allow some time for them to find another place. No one likes being thrown into a life-changing change at the last minute.
I had the same thing happen to me and my roommate. We both wanted different things, but we were afraid to bring it up. Now, we’re better friends than when we lived together! You’ll be surprised.